STORIES: Cody & Greg Flietner

My name is Cody Flietner and I am married to my best friend. Greg and I have been together for four years and when the April 2009 marriage decision came down in Iowa, our eyes were opened to new possibilities. We had far more choices now—we could actually be legally married, share our love for each other through the symbol of marriage, and every aspect of it would be recognized. The feeling was unbelievable.

Before the decision, I already knew Greg was the one for me. We had already been talking about making that commitment to one another even if the state didn’t recognize our relationship. We knew what we had was real. When the Iowa State Supreme Court ended our exclusion from marriage, I popped the question.

I proposed to Greg on Easter Sunday of May 2009. We had made Easter baskets for each other that year and I put the ring in a golden egg, brought it out to him with his eyes closed, got on one knee and asked him if he would be my “Easter egg for life?” Overjoyed, he said yes!! We ended up getting married the following year on May 1st, 2010.

The wedding, to say the least, was magical! We decided to do a “garden” theme for the wedding and brought outside elements of nature inside the auditorium. We ended up having 22 people in the wedding party including 16 bridesmaids, 4 ushers, a flower girl and a ring bearer. But we didn’t stop there. We amped up the procession by dancing into the wedding to “I’ve Got A Feeling” by the Black Eyed Peas.

In all, we had over 600 guests show up to our wedding. That amount of support was out of this world. When the official kiss happened and our minister pronounced us Mr. and Mr. Cody and Greg Flietner, we got a standing ovation. It still gives us goosebumps whenever we think of that moment. Of course the icing on the cake was we had a double rainbow outside the venue after the wedding was over. What a sign!

Why did we get married? Greg is my best friend and I am his best friend. We fit together so well. The love between us is effortless. We are both so blessed and fortunate to have fate bring us together. Neither of us was looking for love when it found us. For that, we take nothing for granted between each other. We have that unconditional connection and wanted to express this by getting married. We wanted to join that symbol of excellence for all couples out there whether they are straight, gay, lesbian, transgender, or inter-racial. And what makes this all the more special is that we have received overwhelming support from our community in Southeast Iowa.

With all that being said, this is also why marriage matters to us. We feel other gay and lesbian couples should also be able to share in the right to marry the love of his or her life. Marriage to us is not only a right, but a privilege every single day. A privilege that everyone should have the opportunity to experience and hold dear in their heart ’til death do they part.

Cody and Greg Flietner


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