STORIES: Adel & Cristal

I met my future wife Cristal through friends in 2009. When we first met, Cristal did everything she could to get my attention. She wouldn’t stop until she got my phone number and a date. She knew how close I am with my brother, and even asked him to help! We’ve been together ever since.

My wife and I live in West Des Moines now with our 13-year-old son Anthony and our dog Zoey. We’re happy to call ourselves a family.

I remember the exact day Cristal proposed to me: February 24, 2010. I remember watching TV with her late at night with Zoey curled up on the couch with us. No one else was home and suddenly Cristal got down on one knee.

“Will you marry me?” she asked. She said she didn’t want to wait another day without us being married.

I immediately said yes! And of course it was time to celebrate! I called my brother who already knew she was going to ask me, and we all went over to a friend’s house to celebrate our engagement with friends and family.

On March 3, 2010 we got married and started our lives together. And here we are, almost 2 years later, just as happy as ever. We’re even thinking about having more children together.

When I saw Why Marriage Matters on Channel 13’s website, I was so excited to see support for our marriage and for the marriages of so many other gay and lesbian couples. It bothers me when anti-equality groups like The Family Leader of the National Organization for Marriage tell my wife and me that we’re not good enough to join the tradition of marriage.

Instead of spending hundreds of thousands of dollars to take away marriage for gay and lesbian couples, how about focusing on more important things like the economy? There’s so much more going on right now, and it’s frustrating how much of a focus is put on my marriage and the marriage of other loving, committed couples. That’s why marriage matters to us. Marriage means protecting our family. We should have the same right to be happy, to have our family recognized. It is only fair.

All we want is to share our love and commitment together and continue to build our family.

All I want is to be with the person I love, to have that union recognized both by the state and hopefully one day by the federal government.

I believe in marriage. I believe it’s a sacred union. It’s about love, trust and respect. It’s about commitment. It’s about family.


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